Stories & SNippets : 2021

…and observations, journals, & musings on music, film, books, art, and pretty things. and life in general.

January 2021

Our son is super into Ray Bradbury, so of course I thought a good kick-off of his old television series, Ray Bradbury Theatre, would be the adaptation of his famous story Sound of Thunder. So we curled up and watched the classic tale of time travel gone…wrong. Not up to par with the story, but still a chilling and thought-provoking rendition.

Glasvegas and Antlers albums from 1981

Such a Fun Age, the 2019 debut novel from Kiley Reid dealing with class, race, and a babysitter without an Instagram account. Thought-provoking in the most entertaining manner; heartbreaking and funny and maddening. I like how the chapters are sequenced and the way Ms. Reid starts each one by overlapping the previous slightly, but with a different characters’ viewpoint.

Cobra Kai season 3 on Netflix. I wish it would wrap up. Not because I don’t enjoy it - I do, very much. But it feels like an arc that could have and should have been completed in three seasons. Nevertheless, it continues to be a wondrous, entertaining, yet also thoughtful tale of people’s capacity to change and the way that people’s environments and relationships shape who they become.

The Whistlers (2020 Romanian crime caper involving a whistling language)

Rachel Held Evans’ Faith Unraveled. I have needed to read this. One to dog ear, write up, and bookmark. Her premature passing is a tragedy on multiple levels.

Casablanca (1942) with our older kids for the first time. Still holds up sooo well.

Andrea Bocelli and Sarah Brightman’s duet of Con Te Partirò. Still so beautiful.

January 01, 2021 : haiku on a Friday

Neutral

The rain thunders hard
but my impatience is louder.
A new year dawns gray.

Austin, TX

Robert Rodriguez
new Heroes movie for kids.
A four-year old loves it.

Live, die, repeat

Edge of Tomorrow,
reset the day when you die.
Smart science fiction

Columbia

A walk on river
fast rain, fast water, fast kids.
Dance no matter what.

Beginning

Don’t want to be so sad
the memories and the dreams
can overwhelm me.

Deep

He wakes in the night,
screaming, mad at me, his dad.
Wants only his mom.

Walk

Walk him to the couch
the purple couch; they will nurse.
Finished Queen’s Gambit.

WWF

They pile on me.
Squirming bodies and sharp limbs.
Might break me…but fine.

PTO

Big discouragement
does not take off holidays.
Ya gotta battle.

Countess

She will fall asleep
and I will watch something mine,
such as The Whistlers.

Thoughts

I will lie in bed
thinking of our four children.
Let me improve, God.

One.

The Girl, fierce.
Time is autobahn fast.
Let me slow things down.

Teen

She’s thirteen? they ask.
You let her drink coffee yet?
That is between us.

Two

The Boy, my patience
stretches, bends, breaks, elastic.
His grin, I love him.

Three

A Boy, song and dance.
Poetry and diapers still.
Wants Mum to lay by.

Four

A Boy, a year old?
Fourteen versions of concern
he can express well.

Her

My Bride, blonde shell bomb.
Atomic with love and sass.
She, me, play and work.

Teen, II

Laid by her in dark
my teen, our first-born child.
Breathing beautiful.

Non-linear

I try to improve.
It’s really hard on some days.
Breathe, step, more coffee.

January 02 : a Shabbat

Independence

The boys make breakfast
They have fun; make it messy.
I will do cleanup.

Influence

Rachel Held Evans
Brilliant, died young, tragedy.
Her Faith book helps me.

Friends

When you start to drown,
some will give a hand, or both.
Others will just watch.

Gauntlet

Kids on Zoom meeting.
But my pants, across the room…
…someone, bring them now!

Tragicomic

Water in speaker
One-year old waters music.
Something else to fix.

Weather

The day is so wet
so we should hike together.
To the Gorge we go.

Chill

Two point five miles
to a waterfall picnic.
Food’s better outside.

Journey

We drive in our car;
the driving is part of it.
Convo, music, sleep.

Crank(y)

Neil Young on drive home:
”Let’s impeach the President”
Different guy, now worse.

Knaves

Ocean’s 11
on a cold Saturday night.
Cool, stylish, good thieves.

January 03

Turnover

Sundays can be hard.
Beginning of new cycle.
Hamster wheel week?

Grid

Waffles in the morn.
Made by Becc and a big boy,
with some nuts and love.

Perfection

Trump’s hour phone call
to Florida Sec. of State:
”Find me some more votes!”

Tuck-in

Thirty-five minutes
lying with a loud four-year old:
”Not you, get Mama!”

Olders

“Just a little Psych?!”
After Youngers are asleep.
Viewing bond with them.

Psych

Gus and Shawn, buddies,
male models, a murder.
We laugh together.

January 04

Trump calls the Georgia Secretary of State. Orders and begs to find enough votes to overturn the election. This call is recorded by the astute and quick-thinking Secretary.

January 05 : Tuesday

Microscope

Bank statement with Mom,
early morning financials.
Money forensics.

M.I.A.

My Air Pods missing.
Funny, cordless luxury;
can’t find anywhere.

Glasvegas

A song : No Widows.
so heartbreakingly pretty.
Night driving classic.

January 06

Georgia runoff: Jon Ossoff (D) wins, other too close to call. Oh, Trump supporters attack the Capitol in a brazen attempt to block Biden’s certification and prevent him from taking office. Four dead. Trump reminds the insurrection how much he loves them.

January 07

Ossoff wins Georgia. Two for two - with Warnock’s win - meaning Democrats now control the Senate.

Munch

A man screams quite loud.
Earsplitting, wakes the dead fast.
He is one year old.

Pandemic hello

Ding dong, doorbell rings.
A surprise drop-by visit.
Convo on the porch.

101

Mrs. C deVille
My daughter, playing a cruel role.
Mean, sassy, so fun.

Guest post : 13-year old

Cruella Deville
played her in improv, fun.
Evil dog killer

Went on a short walk
didn’t get murdered by cows,
so that was a plus.

To the nines

She leaves for meeting
looking so pretty, so fine.
Wearing her slippers.

In this family

A quiet supper
plays same role mastodons do:
there is no such thing.

Comfort

Hand down mom’s boob.
It is his thing; so jealous.
Maybe I should too.

January 08

Finally, a few start to distance themselves for the sake of ethics, morals, civics, patriotism, integrity, and, oh, you know, trying to not get dragged down in history as supporting a dead-duck’s attempt to maintain power in the world’s greatest country. Elaine Chao and Betsy DeVos quit. A bunch of others resign. Looks like Trump’s finally becoming untouchable?…

A song

Black Country, New Road
Claud, per Becca recommend;
rainy drive to work.

January 09

Twitter permanently bans Trump.

Listening to Joseph Arthur’s album Nuclear Daydream.

January 11 : Monday

Reality

They call me ‘Goat Dad.’
Greatest of All Time, I think.
No, Goat Dad, she says.

Half a skill

“I am very good,”
he says with zest, “at throwing.”
”Yes,” I say, “catching?”

January 12

FBI reports there are right-wing extremist threats in 50 state capitals. That’s all of them.

January 13 : Wednesday

Justice

Second impeachment
No one deserves more than Trump.
Also Cruz, Hawley.

Breach

Repubs abandon
Floodgates open
But can’t rewrite history.

Coward

Yes, worst Present ever.
No democratic leader.
Selfish, little man.

History

The names recorded
of those who vote and support
Trump over country.

Noodles (a question, a statement)

What’s for lunch? she says.
Looks at stove, sighs, says deadpan:
Wonder what’s for lunch.

Thank you, Republican

Jaime H. Beutler
our local Congresswoman.
Yes for impeachment.

Hypocrite

Kevin McCarthy
Cal. Rep invokes Abe Lincoln.
”Unity” mantra.

Bliss

He looks so happy
for no reason? or maybe…
he’s peeing in the bath.

Message

Election challenge:
if you supported that poop,
I vote against you.

Hypocrisy

“Unity, come together!”
GOP message.
Their words are hollow.

January 14

Trump is impeached by the full Democrat House. Ten Republicans join, including our Rep, Jaime Herrera Beutler. Thank you.

January 15 : Friday

A song

“My Favorite Things;”
he glides around, singing soft.
And sometimes quite loud.

Om

Cosmic yoga cool.
Four year old follows along.
It’s his ritual.

Nap

He leads me by hand
down hallway to get blanket
and rests head on me.

Lotsa sax

Coltrane on Friday
we draw our favourite things.
Saxophone master.

Wrong again

“No,” I said firmly,
”L’il Wayne doesn’t support Trump.”
But my son was right.

McArthur

We erupt in cheers:
Mom’s home; she lights up our lives.
And brings groceries.

Countess Chef

Chop chop slice dice peel.
Yum, sweet potato curry.
Best supper ever.

January 16

First Cow, 2020 western drama. A slow-moving ode to friendship in 1820s Oregon, with a tiny bit of suspense. I’m still unsure how I feel about it. But there are portions and ideas I appreciated. (1-16-21)

January 16 : Shabbat

Guest haiku : Becca
"Start again"

Sunday vibes with food
our bed was full of humans
please be a good one.

Breakfast

Becca’s oatmeal
handmade, with love, in oven,
and squirts of whip cream.

Gorge

Hike to Duncan Creek.
Five children fjording big streams.
Electricity.

Tragic

Rachel Held Evans:
we listened to her last podcast.
Christian example.

1820

Film about friendship
Old West, two guys, baking, cow
Slow, sad, beautiful.

January 17 : Sunday

Guest haiku : a 10-year old
"Sunday news"

Phil has died.
he was in bars due to this:
murder of an actress.

Guest haiku : a 13-year old

“Why are Sundays so depressing?”

Fog blankets the earth
Star Wars with Ejvy : New Hope
Tofu and taters

Guest rhyme : a 4-year old
"Wog Wog"

We went up the ball, he fell.
Xiomara went up a hill, she fell off a bike.
She bumped into a bunch of oatmeal and got mixed.

Guest haiku : 10-year old
"Imprison"

Phil Spector has died
due to natural causes.
He died in prison.

Guest rhyme : a 4-year old
"Aunty Lanessa”

Yeebie yawbie
Lanessa standed on a sheet
Then she fell off a table.
Dot dot.
The end.

Guest haiku : a 10-year old
"Share"

Xio and Phil share.
Their hair. They both have cool hair.
Oh…and Phil Spector died.

My niece

Stoic toothy grin
lots of words like “hi!”and “wow!”
such a fussy thing.

Guest haiku : Becca

Niece on her day
color sweaters on the three
she ate cake ho hum.

Guest haiku : a 10-year old
"Birthday party and death day party"

Xio’s birthday thing
Cousin, Cousin, Cousin there
Oh…and Spector died.

Guest haiku : the same 10-year old

Xiomara ate cake
Cake she ate not on the plate
Oh…and Spector died.

(note : the first line is six syllables, Ding-Dong)

Guest haiku : anonymous 10-year old
"Books"

My favorite books.
Fahrenheit 451,
plus Lord of the Flies.

Daddy says we can
break laws of poetry so…
oh…and Spector died.

Stomp

Clap clap stomp stomp clap
he stomp-clap shuffles around
10-year old music man.

Guest haiku : a 10-year old
"Tim and Phil"

Ma wants to see him.
Uncle Tim, that one, yes.
Phil Spector has passed.

Guest haiku : a 10-year old
"Tim"

Ma really, really
would like to see Uncle Tim.
She is dying to.

Guest haiku : 10-year old
"Randy"

Told Ma about Quaid:
his tweet about missing Don.
She said awwww, sad.

January 18

Russian opposition leader Alexei Navalny arrives in Moscow and is immediately detained.

January 19

Trump’s last full day in office. His approval is at 34%. He leaves with 400,000 US dead from COVID after a year.

January 21

Biden inaugurated as the 46th President. Kamala Harris is the first woman Vice-President, the first Asian, and the first person of color. Trump does not attend. Chuck Schumer (D) is the new leader of the Senate.

Last second pardoning and commuting before Trump gets booted from office. This includes Steve Bannon.

Blow

I stepped into sun
but the wind tore breath from me.
My brittle skin cracks.

Go team!

I make the kids draw.
Three minutes! I say, go now!
Good competition.

Goodnight ritual

“Blanket coverer!”
she calls me in; “that’s your job!”
my thirteen-year old.

Love

I grab her hips fast,
straddle her legs up on me
in kitchen; kids laugh.

Ex-Pres

George W. Bush:
He paints now, my son told us,
“…and some of it’s good.”

January 23

Sue

She is sixty-eight.
She makes all around better.
My mom; to many.

January 24

Clue, 1985 mystery-comedy based on…the board game! Yes, in the old days, moviemakers would lift ideas from board games, rather than theme parks or video games. Madcap, scary, funny, and sharp repartee. An underrated mid-80s classic. And if you didn’t like Tim Curry before…you probably won’t like him after seeing this either. But if you want Tim Curry doing some of his best Tim Curry, then watch this.

January 25 : Monday

Organics

I help with Science.
Photosynthesis is cool.
Carb-di, water, light.

The Help

Two boys who draw hard.
Flurry of grand marker strokes.
Laundry is a beast.

Symphony Circus

Voices overlap.
Lots and lots, they rise and fall.
Noise can be music.

January 27 : Wednesday

D.O.A.

Last night there was snow.
the temperature went up.
The snow, it is dead now.

January 28, 2021 : at long last

There comes a point where you gotta own up to what you can’t do solo. Or at least…do effectively solo. Or…in the case of updating our windows, solo, period. A pretty penny, but half our house should be looking good and keeping water out, after today.

January 29 : Friday

No, no, no

A deer, dead by road.
Morning passes; thing is…
she’s not fully dead.

The crew

Russian window guys
work hard, work fast, take no breaks.
Very expensive.

February 2021

First good album I’ve heard of 2021 : The Hold Steady’s Open Door Policy. Craig Finn’s nifty yell-speak-melodics that treat every track like an anthem and every moment one worth writing about. Classic deep left field guitar rock & roll.

The Waterboys’ underappreciated ode to the poet from 2011, An Appointment With Mr. Yeats.

February 3, 2021 : Wednesday

Cycles

The cereal spills
Cannot find one of my shoes.
A normal morning.

Lunch

For something special,
I heated up some black beans,
and some bread; “here kids!”

Save Yourselves! (a film)

Talky Brooklyn pair.
Getaway with no cellphones
Cabin, aliens.

Mad

Wish I was more kind.
My kids think I’m kind of mean.
Sometimes they’re right.

Priorities

Clean your room, I yell.
I hope they have more than this
in their memories.

February 12 : Friday

The snow fell hard fast.
donuts, drive in big blizzard.
Bunk bed assemble.

Finally, kids asleep.
we celebrate by talking.
about them, of course.

February 13 : Shabbat

Snow keeps us indoors.
Well, not driving anyway.
Sledding, wet feet, shrieks.

Boys interruptus
Midnight movie Juliet.
We laugh together.

February 14

Juliet, Naked. What a delight. A 2018 comedy full of romance and hilarity, often smart, often clever, and often full of wonderful chemistry. Rose Byrne begins a…correspondence with her boyfriend’s obsession: a genius musician who released only one album decades previous, and now is off the map. Played by Ethan Hawke, and full of life. Loved.

Gattaca. Yeah, we pretty much only watch Ethan Hawke films in February. Been waiting to introduce this one to our older kids. Stands up well. Still my favourite tagline of all time : “There is no gene for the human spirit.”

Becca and I up
before six with the three boys
finish Juliet.

Clean a boys’ bedroom
New bed, pancakes, play in snow
Boy drawing, Etsy.

A sled run supreme
Half pipe, go fast, crash real hard.
My bod heals slow now.

February 18 : Thursday

A date with his mom.
You can’t come, he says to me.
I’ll just drive, I say.

Vaccination

eighteen month check up
his eyes start to eke out tears
i hold his hand tight.

February 19, 2021 : controlled chaos

I subtitled it above to imply an equal distribution of the two words, and I should really like to perpetuate that interpretation. Did I keep all parties alive? Did I keep children fed and minds engaged? Did I do some teaching? Did I lose my patience? Yes to all of the above, and I did most of it with a smile as I imagined how hilarious it would be to be watching dispassionately from the sidelines as I starred in some sort of Three Stooges-Road Runner-Simpsons- Norm Rockwell on caffeine mashup of parenting and teaching. Today’s parental gauntlet mainly involved fifty percent of the children’s army; the one whose lower ranks total two adults whose age is a combined total of less than six years, and the hurricane they constructed in their massive ode to living with enthusiasm and melodic excess. Oh yes, there was melody, and we thundered Shostakovich as we discussed the effect of Stalin’s first Five Year plan on art and culture in Russia. My body and mind are attenuated to a constant track of en garde survivalism that is either making me almost immortal or running my every body system down decades before its time. I don’t know. But I know I ended the day smiling, and I kept everyone alive and made some good moments. So I’m gonna feel good. Despite it being after 1am and knowing I’ll be up in several hours to start the möbius loop again. And so it goes.

Boys into it all.
Read, climb, dress up, eat, repeat.
Pills, like their parents.

Cowboys with dolls

Little hands helping
pulling hats and costumes down
"We’re cowboys!" they say.

We spoke of polis,
Greek for city, a great word
to keep in vocab.

Becca made curry.
But not solo, oh no no.
Three boys helping lots.

February 20 : Shabbat

Night was not too good.
Troupe of wrestlers joined our bed.
and ripped covers off.

I don’t think there’s snow.
But then there is, and we hike,
our poor feet freeze.

Hamilton Mountain
is wondrous, especially
if you have dry socks.

February 26 : Friday

Mountains and valleys, and man am I glad I like a variety of weather and terrain, because our family, with six at different ages and stages and wants and needs and interests and opinions, represents a dynamic swath of emotional weather and terrain. I include myself, and it’s not a bad thing. The days are somehow simultaneous lightning and quicksand; moving at the speed of light when I want to slow down, and slogging through boggy swamp when I want the clock to tick a little faster sometimes. I’m irked at myself for even thinking that. I want to enjoy and savor every moment to the greatest degree possible. But these days are intense. Not a bad word. I don’t want dull, boring, or Midwest flat. Just intense. Zero to seventy five and there’s no braking on the turns or switchbacks. And I’m okay. Reminds me again and again of how lucky I am to be partnered with someone who can equally love and laugh at our lives. And who digs loud music, wet hikes, and good films.

February 27 : Shabbat

A crowded playground.
Some take COVID serious
Many don’t, so sad.

My mom’s lasagna
eaten outside with good peeps.
Followed by cookies.

February 28 : Sunday

Clean a big garage.
At least I try to make dent.
Play ‘60s music.

A boy action paints
in front yard, it’s so messy
and my heart’s happy.

March 2021

Book of Eels by Patrik Svensson. Can’t put it down. I mean…I do, because I have to. But it is so good. About eels, and the previously-unknown to me centuries-old scientific fascination with them, due to their mysterious existence, reproductive patterns, life cycles, and what they say about metaphysics and the gap beyond what we can observe, prove, and know.

Promising Young Woman, 2020 dark, dark, yet sometimes funny, sad, infuriating, bleak revenge thriller that sweeps you up in emotions and will stay in your head. It’s…unlike what you might think it’s going to be.

March 05 : Friday

Sometimes you know when you’re doing something wrong, or poorly, or sometimes you simply know that you’re not performing up the standards you’re capable of. And you realize - I realise - that I’ve veered farther than I thought off the pathway I’d like to be on. But it’s not like it’s a giant veering-off in the wrong direction all at once. I realised recently how far I feel I’ve gotten off track as a dad with things I feel I used to do well. One of the big ones being this: I used to try hard to make as much of every day and every activity fun. Simple. Make it fun. Try to make it fun. I did pretty well for a long time. Then the challenges of having multiple people at different ages and phases and wants and needs caught up, and I slowly started getting more impatient. Less understanding, less willing to take extra amounts of time to invest in gamification and simply wanting things to get done. We’ve never been an especially efficient family, but we’ve been an effective one; by choice, as the latter is far more important. However, I admit to daydreaming and trying at different points to improve our execution of the former: to be more efficient.

Here’s the thing: being efficient and being fun are largely paradoxical ideas. Not completely in opposition…but usually, within the context of raising a family.

So I have been fighting to get myself back into a balance of doing better with patience, better with understanding, and better with fun. With making our lives fun. It’s really not a massively greater investment; it’s more of a mindset. Trying to deliberately carve out time with each child, and build conscious and full attention in little bursts in areas they’re interested in. On their terms. And it’s been a really good week. Plenty of the same chaotic symphony - many instruments going simultaneously; the conductor hiding underneath the glockenspiel. But also an energy I’ve missed. A little more fun.

Bubble blowing, bikes, dollhouse on front porch, an afternoon of dress up and costuming, Hamlet, some Ray Bradbury aloud, UNO, Egyptian Rat Screw, Hemingway aloud, reading on front lawn, chalk drawing, cookies, vigorous and lively discussions and arguments, hide and seek, painting, WandaVision, block building, chasing, wrestling, food making…

…it’s been a good week overall.

March 15 : Monday, a first

First day of hybrid learning. Doing one day 8.15-12.15. Went well.

Boys to skate park, Salmon-Morgan Creek Trail, Kiwanis Park. Our 50-month old (yes, I’m laughing at myself writing his age in months, but I am a geek in so many ways), loved being “The Leader.” Called him “Hiker Man.” He was okay with it - and is currently very selective about what nicknames are okay. The list includes a two-syllable derivative of his first name, the full and complete four-word title of his name, Poohberry, and now…HikerMan.

Good day. Just feel like I’m unable to really make traction on any area outside…raising and developing children. There’s a sentence that I hope ages well?

April 2021

Rituals:
Sweet potato curry on Friday nights.
Jazz

May 2021

June 2021

Mare of Easttown (HBO series, 2021). Flat out one of the finest limited run series I’ve seen. Kate Winslet in top form, along with fellow castmates in slow-building, mesmerizing small Pennsylvania town detective investigation that digs deep into family, relationships, and grief to grip you tightly and intelligently.

Shoplifters (film, 2018). Japanese comedy-drama about families that choose each other. Oh, and steal stuff. Sweet, beautiful, melancholic. A reminder to think about what the meaning of family really is.

The Terminal (film, 2004). An underrated Spielberg/Hanks film about a man caught between countries at the airport, and his resilience and resourcefulness. Not perfect, not on the A-list of either, but a delicious little treat of a movie that’s better than I remembered.

June 03

Those Who Wish Me Dead (2021) Smokejumping, fires, and Angelina Jolie trying to keep an 11-year old boy alive from assassins. Decently done version of a thousand 90s action movies, including the song that starts playing at the end.

June 11

The Pink Panther (film, 1963). The kids’ first time seeing the original classic. Now, I really enjoyed the two Steve Martin remakes of this. Extremely different flavors. Enjoying the original with Peter Sellers takes a certain amount of…getting into the tone and the style of humor. Really neat to see the kids find and appreciate different aspects of it.

June 13

Notting Hill (film, 1999). How do you not love Julia Roberts on the basis of this movie alone? For that matter, Hugh Grant? First time with our Older kids, and I enjoyed this rom-com as a second viewing about as much as any I’ve seen. Rhys Ifans almost steals the show as Spike the Flatmate. The supporting cast is wonderful as well. And the chemistry and lovely little English scenes are…lovely.

June 15

Badlands (film, 1973). Finally got around to to seeing the Terrence Malick classic. So much has been said about it already, starting with the cinematography. Gorgeous. The lingering poetry of absorbing you into both relationships of both people and place. A slow burn that stays with you.

July 2021

Only Murders in the Building. Steve Martin and Martin pairing up as NYC true crime aficionados starting a podcast? Expected brilliance. Adding Selena Gomez and making a trio? Total left field. And it works. Thank you, Jeremy, for the recommendation.

August 2021

Attack the Block. 2011 British alien attack movie with good dialogue, good beats, and a post-Guy Ritchie frenetic pace that works. John Boyega is in fine form as a grim-faced rascal.

Xavier Rudd’s Stoney Creek. It’s gonna be a tough climb to top this one for track of the year. Beautiful, and one of my new favorite videos to accompany the soundtrack.

The Mysterious Benedict Society on Disney+ with the kids. Droll, character-driven piece with Wes Anderson sets and precocious kids - think: distant Baudelaire cousins from Series of Unfortunate Events - out to save the world. Tony Hale pulls double duty as Svengali-ish twins on opposing sides. Fun, and makes a good case for the hipness of tetherball being the new soccer.

September 2021

Nine picks from September 18-25

  1. The Prada Ocean ad running incessantly on Spotify with the relentless O Fortuna-channeling music that has Jake Gyllenhaal on a yacht. Little embarrassed to say I’m completely mesmerized by it still.

  2. Coldplay’s Lovers in Japan from 2008.

  3. Belle & Sebastian’s Sleep the Clock Around from 1998.

  4. Stevie Wonder’s I Believe from 1972 (and the High Fidelity soundtrack from 2000).

  5. Jake Bugg’s Hold Tight from this year.

  6. Ted Lasso season 2

  7. Ray Bradbury’s The Illustrated Man short story from 1951. The kind that makes you shiver and check the windows. Also: started Something Wicked This Way Comes. Take those shivers and triple.

  8. Worth, the Amy Ryan-Michael Keaton-Stanley Tucci drama about the process for calculating survivor benefits after 9/11. How do you calculate the value of a human life?

  9. Brahms’ Hungarian Rhapsody from the late 1870s. My go-to kick off morning blast the last couple weeks.

    Five picks from September 26-October 10

    1. Chvrches’ 2021 dark, bouncy concept album Screen Violence (thank you, Brian V, for alerting me to their latest album, somehow it came out under my radar).

    2. Manic Street Preachers keep putting on a clinic for making poppy political anthems with this year’s The Ultra Vivid Lament.

    3. Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism by Amanda Montell (book).

    4. I See You. A terrifying, slow-building thriller from 2017. Don’t watch the trailer. Don’t read anything. Thank you, Jeremy Long, for the recommendation.

    5. The Squid Game (Netflix) Yeah, I’m watching it too, although it’ll probably take me two months longer to finish than the rest of the world.

      October 02 - A Three Song Sunday Playlist

      Baby Shark - Pinkfong
      We Are Young - fun. featuring Janelle Monáe
      In the Middle, In the Middle, In the Middle - They Might Be Giants

      My daughter reading Catcher in the Rye for the first time. Sniff.

October 2021

October 05 : Driving with my daughter

We talked about Epigenetics and how fascinating Biology is. I am so glad she is enjoying science.

  1. We listened to Kings of Leon, a band special to my heart.

  2. We drove in the rain, and at one point I might have commented on how I like rain, and she might have said something similar.

  3. Somehow we ended up talking about the movie I See You. It’s a nifty little suspense thriller that does something very interesting partway through. Jeremy recommended it, and I enjoyed it. She has not seen it, but I spoke of it in such a manner that I did not give away spoilers or details that would detract from her enjoyment. She is thinking she enjoys scary movies and tales involving suspense and big thrills. It provides some good catalysts for conversation, as I understand the allure of these stories.

  4. We talked about U.S. politics, and listened to a Francis Collins interview on NPR.

It was a good drive. I love driving with her.

October 21

Prologue to a sentence I didn’t think I’d be writing at the beginning of the year: “Off to France I go.”

A drop-off at the airport by a brother insistent on taking me, en route to see a sister enthusiastic about my arrival, leaving behind a wife and four children supportive and excited about my trek. Coffee in hand, masked up, hoping for a good seat and clear sailing through customs, etc.

November 2021

December 2021

8-Bit Christmas (film)

Deck the Halls (film). Matthew Broderick & Danny Devito dueling decorating neighbors setup. Not classic. But worth a once-see.

December 23

Becca takes care of bathing a filthy 26-month old. Bless her. We FaceTime a dear aunt-slash-my sister the younger-younger. An 11-year old reads Roald Dahl’s Boy while his almost 5-year old brother navigates an old Speak-and-Spell that somehow has battery life still living. Becca provides caloric sustenance to a child (see: first sentence of this entry) and our 14-yo daughter crawls in bed with them. Why not?

Later, she teaches her youngest brother how to wrestle (pro tip: pick them up and hold them upside down if you’re able). He eventually finds comfort in the company of a large cardboard box, which keeps him busy and playing solo for a long stretch. Also, he is decked out in a Puma tracksuit, which is indescribably adorable to me. Along the way, he and his next-oldest bro dump out three trillion handpainted wood blocks. I go up to see my Metallica-shirt wearing nephew, freshly 15, and cannot keep the smile off my face; I love this boy-man.

We head to the Coast, where we are warmly welcomed - what a pleasant surprise! We eat pizza and salad and Jonny is wearing a Santa hat. Micael and my dad chat; one in a rocking chair. Children test out the firefighter-slash-dance-stripper pole installed by my dad in the attic. Finally, close the 11pm hour, the last glass of water is supplied to the last woke-child (hint: almost 5) and the elves are slumbering…for a wee bit. Aaaah.

People who appear to be of interest to the world in 2021

The Royals. Still. A year after Meghan and Harry exited. Still making magazine covers.
Ralph Macchio’s back with Cobra Kai.
Steph Curry. The one to beat for Greatest Shooter of All Time status.

Family trends

Kids reading through People magazine and coloring in faces. You’re welcome, Emma Stone and Chrissy Teigen.

Fave Films of 2021

My 22 Favorite Movies of 2021

Army of Thieves
Barb and Star Go to Vista Del Mar
Black Widow
CODA
Don’t Look Up
Drive My Car
Dune
In the Heights
The Last Duel
Licorice Pizza
The Mitchells Versus the Machines
Pig
The Power of the Dog
Shang Chi and the Legend of the Ten Rings
Spider-Man: No Way Home
The Suicide Squad
tick…tick BOOM!
The Tragedy of Macbeth
The Worst Person in the World

Honorable mention

Annette (strangest film I’ve seen this year)
Army of the Dead
Being the Ricardos
Cruella
Boss Level
The Green Knight
Long Story Short
The Lost Daughter
Luca
The Mad Woman’s Ball
Matrix Resurrection
Moxie
Nightmare Alley
No Sudden Move
No Time to Die
Old
Petite Maman
Red Notice
Reminiscence
Together Together
Vivo
Worth

All ages-ish

Cruella
Encanto
Jungle Cruise
Luca
Peter Rabbit 2
Raya and the Last Dragon
Tom & Jerry
Vivo

Holiday

8-Bit Christmas
Home Sweet Home Alone
Love Hard
Princess Switch 3

Guilty pleasures

Those Who Wish Me Dead

Not great, but worth a once-through

coming soon

Want to see, might see

A Hero
The Burning Sea (Norwegian disaster)
The Courier
Cry Macho
Cyrano
The Dig
The Electrical Life of Louis Wain
Finch
Free Guy
I’m Your Man
King Richard
The Map of Tiny Perfect Things
Nobody
Old Henry
Oxygen
Parallel Mothers
Passing
Ron’s Gone Wrong
Spencer
Summer of Soul (... Or, When the Revolution Could Not Be Televised)
Swan Song
The Tender Bar
The Water Man
Zola

Underwhelming / disappointing / plain bad

The Guilty
Last Night in Soho - Gorgeous rendition of 1960s London. Love Edgar Wright’s others. Loved the first half. Disappointing last third.
The Little Things - even a trifecta of Oscar winners can’t rescue a script that feels unfinished
Things Heard and Seen
The Tomorrow War
West Side Story

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Back to Film Index by Year

ESSENTIAL MUSIC OF 2021

My favourite 11 albums

Chvrches - Screen Violence
Clap Your Hands Say Yeah - New Fragility
the Killers - Pressure Machine
Kings of Leon - When You See Yourself
The Hold Steady - Open Door Policy
Manic Street Preachers - The Ultra Vivid Lament
The War On Drugs - I Don’t Live Here Anymore

Honorable Mention

Chevelle - NIRATIAS
Jake Bugg - Saturday Night, Sunday Morning
James - All the Colours of You
Moby - Reprise
The Stranglers - Dark Matters
Unwed Sailor - Truth or Consequences

Disappointments & underperformers

coming soon

Haven’t listened / haven’t spent enough time with yet

coming soon

My 44 Unmissable Tracks

  1. Change - The War on Drugs

  2. In The Car Outside - the Killers

  3. Quiet Town - the Killers

  4. Stoney Creek - Xavier Rudd

  5. We Deserve to Dream - Xavier Rudd

Playlists by Month

January

  1. The Feelers - The Hold Steady

  2. 100,000 People - Kings of Leon

  3. Quiet Town - the Killers

  4. So Long, Mother Earth - Chevelle

  5. A Wave - Kings of Leon

  6. ∞ - Coldplay

  7. In My Room - Grandaddy

  8. Blitz - Unwed Sailor

  9. Dee, Forgiven - Clap Your Hands Say Yeah

  10. Riptown - The Hold Steady

  11. The Secret He Had Missed - Manic Street Preachers

  12. Lilith - Unwed Sailor

  13. The Getting By - the Killers

February

  1. Granted - Olivia Rodrigo

  2. Chemtrails Over the Country Club - Lana Del Rey

  3. Chinatown - Bleachers f. Bruce Springsteen

  4. Runaway Horses (with Phoebe Bridgers) - the Killers

  5. Let Somebody Go - Coldplay f. Selena Gomez

  6. Medicine - James Arthur

  7. Maybe It’s Today - Jake Bugg

  8. Easy On Me - Adele

  9. Hanover Camera - The Hold Stead

  10. Hold Tight - Jake Bugg

  11. Into the Waves of Love - Manic Street Preachers

  12. Biutyful - Coldplay

  13. To Be Loved - Adele

  14. Losing You - James Arthur

  15. Love Will Be Reborn - Martha Wainwright

  16. I’ve Been Loving You Long - Jason Isbell and the 400 Unit

March

  1. One Red Rose - Iris DeMent

  2. Alone with My Phone - Ole Kirkeng

  3. Chasing Birds - Foo Fighters

  4. Rocking Chair - Ole Kirkeng

  5. The Bandit - Kings of Leon

  6. The Sun Hasn’t Left - Modest Mouse

  7. I Need You (To Quit Breaking My Heart) - Chris Norwood f. Carrie Norwood

  8. Motorbike - Leon Bridges

  9. That’s Life - Willie Nelson

  10. Stormy Weather - Kings of Leon

  11. Keep It On The Sunnyside - Willie Nelson

April

  1. Asking for a Friend - Chvrches

  2. Change - The War on Drugs

  3. Complicated Illusions - Manic Street Preachers

  4. Endlessly - Chevelle

  5. I Don’t Live Here Anymore - The War on Drugs

  6. I’m Through - Jason Isbell and the 400 Unit

  7. Innocent Weight - Clap Your Hands Say Yeah

  8. Isabella - James

  9. Occasional Rain - The War on Drugs

  10. Scene - Jake Bugg

  11. Thousand Oaks - Clap Your Hands Say Yeah

  12. Time in Disguise - Kings of Leon

  13. Unpleasant Breakfast - the Hold Steady

  14. When You See Yourself, Are You Far Away - Kings of Leon

  15. Wherever It Takes Us - James

  16. Yosemite - Llana del Rey

May

  1. Drivers License - Olivia Rodrigo

  2. Spices - The Hold Steady

  3. Payday - The Stranglers

  4. Never Let You Down - Islands

  5. We Are The People - Martin Garrix f. Bono & The Edge

  6. Cover Me In Sunshine - Pink and Willow Sage Hart

  7. A Little Space - Pentatonic f. ATEEZ

  8. Our Love Will Change the World - Alice Cooper

  9. I Want It All - The Script

  10. California - Chvrches

  11. Without You - The Kid Laroi & Miley Cyrus

  12. Have Mercy - Chloe Bailey

June

  1. Lanyards - The Hold Steady

  2. Cloudspotter - Foo Fighters

  3. Mars Simula - Chevelle

  4. Beautiful Beaches - James

  5. Islomania - Islands

  6. Japanese Trees - Modest Mouse

  7. All I Need - Jake Bugg

  8. No Way out but Through - Face to Face

  9. No Man’s Land - The Stranglers

  10. Holy Ground (Taylor’s Version) - Taylor Swift

  11. Linda - Tokischa & Rosalia

July

  1. Self Destructor - Chevelle

  2. How Dare You Want More - Bleachers

  3. In The Car Outside - the Killers

  4. Walking and Running - Modest Mouse

  5. Guided by Angels - Amyl and the Sniffers

August

  1. Heavy Covenant - The Hold Steady

  2. Echoing - Kings of Leon

  3. Water - The War on Drugs

  4. Santa Rosa - Linsdsey Buckinharm

  5. Remember When - Chevelle

  6. Hesitating Nation - Clap Your Hands Say Yeah

  7. Back To The Middle - Modest Mouse

  8. Complex - Tristen

  9. Carpenter - Islands

  10. My Memories - Tuns

  11. Family Farm - The Hold Steady

  12. White Stallion - The Stranglers

  13. Piistol Star (Gravity Heals) - Chevelle

  14. Happy Bored Alone - Manic Street Preachers

  15. Old Skin - The War on Drugs

  16. Downtown - Jake bugg

  17. Sometimes I Forget How Summer Looks on You - Ben LaMar Gay

September

  1. Stoney Creek - Xavier Rudd (E)

  2. Living Proof - The War on Drugs

  3. Into the Blue - The Joy Formidable

  4. Don’t Let the Night Divide Us - Manic Street Preachers

  5. Golden Restless Age - Kings of Leon

  6. New Fragility - Clap Your Hands Say Yeah

  7. The Last Man On Earth - Wolf Alice

  8. The Lines - The Stranglers

  9. September - James Arthur

  10. Lost - Jake Bugg

  11. In Another Life - the Killers

  12. Mirror Song - Clap Your Hands Say Yeah

  13. Orwellian - Manic Street Preachers

  14. Sevier - The Joy Formidable

  15. Claire & Eddie - Kings of Leon

  16. Afterending - Manic Street Preachres

  17. Water - The Stranglers

  18. Sleepwalker - the Killers

  19. Lonely Hours - Jake Bugg

  20. Oxytocin - Billie Eilish

  21. How Not To Drown - Chvrches & Robert Smith

  22. We Deserve To Dream - Xavier Rudd

  23. Skewer - Liars

October

  1. Nightmares - Chvrches

  2. Sleep the Deep - Chvelle

  3. Rings Around My Father’s Eyes - The War on Drugs

  4. Hush - James

  5. Bit - Unwed Sailor

  6. Desperate Things - the Killers

  7. Therefore I Am - Billie Eilish

  8. Emily - James Arthur

  9. Humankind - Coldplay

  10. Diapause - Manic Street Preachers

  11. Hold On - Adele

  12. I Didn’t Change My Number - Billie Eilish

  13. Damn - Ada Lea

  14. West Hills - the Killers

November

  1. Human Heart - Coldplay (with We Are King & Jacob Collier)

  2. Harmonia’s Dream - The War on Drugs

  3. Ajo - Unwed Sailor

  4. Phantom Tears - Ole Kirkeng

  5. Blind Love - Lindsey Buckingham

  6. The Fox in the Snow - Granddaddy

  7. Lit (from “A Silent Voice”) - Quiet Gaze

  8. Body - Noah Gundersen f. Andy D. Park

  9. Here’s to You - Il Solo & Ennis Morricone

  10. Lose Your Head - London Grammar

  11. Where They Perform Miracles - Clap Your Hands Say Yeah

  12. Your Power - Billie Eilish

  13. SOS - James Arthur

  14. Higher Power - Coldpay

  15. Occasional Rain - The War on Drugs

  16. Winter - Vivaldi Variations - Olivia Belli

  17. Quest for Ancient Colour - Manic Street Preachers

  18. I Don’t Mind - Lindsey Buckingham

  19. The Ecstasy of Gold - Il Solo & Ennis Morricone

  20. Street of Philadelphia - Waxahatchee

  21. Borrowed Light - Perfume Genius

  22. Down - The Stranglers

  23. Take It Or Leave It - James Arthur

  24. Aquamarine - Hand Habits

  25. Daddy - Charlotte Cardin

  26. L’attaque des Loups - Nick Cave & Warren Ellis

  27. How Can I Make It OK? - Wolf Alice

  28. Pressure Machine - the Killers

December

  1. What Has Happened - Tonstartssbandht

  2. White Horses - Low